“The way up and the way down are one and the same. He had to descend to the depth of himself and stay there: in that inner darkness without refuge, without hope. This was the only path that would lead him upward. […] None wants to suffer and yet the most fortunate among us get to learn from our suffering. We become clearly, joyously aware of the cause of all sufferings: instead of sleep we remember pain – there is a violent grace that shapes our hands. Humility follows as a natural result. We learn to loose control: we discover that we never had it in first place. It’s total surrender to what is. […] It’s like a tree that let’s go of its leaves: it just stands there in the cold winter, totally exposed, totally surrendered.”